It's a natural human need to be liked. People crave recognition, and that's completely fine. But when these thoughts take over, block you, and start hitting your life negatively, that's no longer healthy — and on top of it, you're burning your most valuable time.

These are 3 signs that you're spending too much time worrying about what others think of you:

1. You don't know what you actually like, because you adjust your opinion to fit your surroundings.
2. You try to please everyone.
3. You do things you don't actually want to do, and you regret it afterwards.

The more of these signs you can identify with, the more urgent it is to change something.

Because if your life is shaped by trying to please everyone and putting your own needs last, you'll come up short long-term and never live a fulfilled life!

So how do you actually get to a point where it doesn't bother you what other people think of you? Three tips coming up:

1. Nobody actually cares about you!

You spend a huge chunk of your time stuck on these questions:

• What's expected of me?
• What do they probably think of me?
• Do I look weird?
• Can I pull this off?

Now take a wild guess what other people are thinking about most of their time. Exactly the same thing! Nobody is actually that interested in your appearance or your problems. That sounds harsh at first, but it's the truth. Every person has their own challenges and spends a huge chunk of their lifetime stuck on those things. As important as we think we are, we're not nearly that important to anyone else.

2. Everybody's darling is everybody's fool

"Anyone who spends their whole life trying to please everyone else will end up pleasing nobody."

Growing up, we get taught to please everyone. If you can please everyone, then everyone likes you and you have plenty of friends. Then you have a fulfilled life, right? Not quite!

You can't please everyone. There will always be people who find something wrong with you. The moment you adjust your behavior, there will be someone who doesn't like the new version. You should work on your sense of self-worth and keep growing in order to please yourself. That's the main thing!

3. The price is too high

The moment you actually realize the price you pay for these worries, it gets way faster to stop caring what others think of you.

What does it actually cost you when you worry about what others think of you?

Out of fear of not pleasing others, you keep yourself small. You'd rather give in than stand up for yourself and your view. That way you can never unfold your full potential. On top of that, you stomp on your sense of self-worth. Every time you cave, you give your self-worth a hard kick. As a result, you can never build a real personality, because your view always depends on the world around you.